Can i marry your daughter, Sir?

Assalamualaikum, readers.

I'm gonna start my clinic tomorrow. a little nervous, but I hope things go well tomorrow.

Can I have your daughter for the rest of my life?

Say yes, say yes, 'cause I need to know

You say I'll never get your blessing 'til the day I die

Tough luck my friend, but the answer is 'No'

Have you heard of this song before? It's by Magic!

This song is so catchy and everybody's singing the song everywhere I go.

Anywayyyssss...

You know how a lot of people are talking and supporting marriage at early age, some during studying.

If you have been reading my previous entries about weddings, you'd realize that I'm a fan of weddings and ceremonies, but I'm never ready for it...yet.

Somehow, I pictured some dude from my university or anyone in particular, who is young and still studying, come up to my Dad and ask him for my hand in marriage. 

Things didn't work out good.

Pretty sure the first question my Dad asks is "Are you working, son?"

He's definitely not working. Duh.

"Do you have a house or car?"

Motorcycle, probably. 

Does hostel count as a house?

Dad sighes, leans against the couch. Eyes glued to the dude's.

"How will you support my daughter?"

Scholarship. Plus, she has scholarship too. We'll share our money and work things out.

"Why do you want to marry my daughter?"

Adjusts his seat and leans forward. Clears throat. Because I love your daughter, Sir.

Dad (probably) would smile, drink his coffee and pretend he didn't hear the last part. They'd talk about stuff, whatever guys talk about. And, the dude will be sent home. 

"I'll call you in a few days, I can't give you my answer right away"

Do you think my Dad's reactions' a little extreme?

I don't.

Honestly, I tried looking at this matter from a Dad's perspective. 

He raised me for 22 years. He gave me the world, everything I ask, he'd grant them. (well, not all. but you get what i mean)

He takes me on trips, buy great food and provided me with allowance even though I didn't need it.

Will he just let me live with a guy with very little stability? 

What if I want something and he can't grant it? Will we fight? Will my husband understand? Will he eventually buy whatever I want?

Will I be happy living in a rented house with his coursemates?

Will I ever feel happy living with him?

Pretty sure, my Dad will ask this question every day in his prayers: Have I done enough for my daughter?

Daddy's little girl.

I guess I've made you guys see this matter from a father's perspective.

Thanks for reading.

Wallahua'lam.

God works in mysterious ways

Assalamualaikum, readers.

Currently I'm in a crazy-freaky-nervous-almost reaching breaking point self. 
I'm starting my clinic session in less than one week, and I haven;t found myself a patient! Whatt???

Back to the topic...
In all the hectic-ness of, "Oh my God, I don;t have patient!" and "I tried calling a few times but they didn;t pick up their phones!" situations, I have relied more on God. 
You know coz in the end, He's the one who could help change the minds of the patients in calling me and opening their hearts to accept some dental treatments I'm offering.

Yesterday, I gave a few patients my numbers and this morning, I've prayed hard for the patients to reply or call me back to set a date for appointment.

I went to the clinic with an empty head, no expectations whatsoever and called two paeds patients, inquiring if they'd like to continue treatments.
Both of them said 'Yes'!

Wow! 

Alhamdulillah, all praises to Allah!

And the last person on earth I thought who'd give a damn about anybody else but themselves have came up to me and offered me a number. a patient's number!

Seriously??

Moral of the story is to try not to complain all the time (telling myself this) and to leave everything to God after you've tried your best.

Please pray for my success in clinical life! And...anybody here who lives in Kelantan, Malaysia, please, drop me a comment if you'd like any dental treatment. Everything is free! ;)

Wallahua'lam...

Hey, Pluto! Can I pat you?

*this entry was supposed to be posted a week ago, but there was some bad internet connection* 

Assalamualaikum, readers.

Today’s entry is quite a sensitive issue. *inhales and exhales* I’ll try and keep my cool on this entry, don’t worry.

Currently in Malaysia, people are battling back and forth about dogs.

Say whaaattttt?

Yeah.

We can't do this? Bummer!

I have no clue what initiated it, but out of nowhere, more and more Muslims were posting pictures and statuses on social networks about dogs.

One girl rescued a dog and snapped a few pictures of the dog sitting on her lap, while another guy snapped a picture of feeding a dog outside his house.

Out of nowhere, came out this campaign, “Touch a dog” and people went haywire!

Lots of Muslims were against this, and they were not shy of sharing their opinions. Hate comments were shared on social networks, people were arguing about this openly, the ustazs gave their piece of minds…and finally, the person who started the campaign apologized publicly.

Even so, there was one video about how DANGEROUS dogs are to humans.

I watched the video and I thought it is only right if I could set things straight.

First of all…

Dogs are not HARAAM!

Well, it depends on how you see it. If you’re talking about eating a dog (or a pig), yeah, that’s haraam. Touching a dog is not haraam. It’s just ‘dirty’.

If you stepped into mud, and your shoes get dirty, what do you do?

You wash your shoes until they are clean, right?

Same goes to the dogs. If you get in contact with them in any way, all you have to do is clean the particular area. But, it’s not just spraying water over the area with lots of soap.

In Islam, we have a specific way to clean ourselves if we get in contact with dogs and pigs. We need six buckets of water and another bucket of water mixed with soil. After that, you’re completely fine!

You can pray, read the Holy Quraan…whatever! You’re good to go!

Second of all…

Dogs are not HARMFUL!

Based on the video I watched (a documentary done in Australia), the host revealed how harmful man’s best friends are. The host was talking about parasites that are found in dogs, Echinococcus granulosus.

The true story about dogs and parasites is, (currently squeezing my brain out for all these facts) the dogs will only get infected IF and ONLY IF the dog consumed some infected meat (infected sheep, lamb or cow). Apparently, this parasite is found on grass and when a healthy ruminant eats the grass that is infected with the parasite, the parasite will colonize the ruminants. The parasite infects the main organs of the ruminants, usually the lungs, muscle and brain.

And, when the infected ruminants are butchered, the parasites live on. 

Problem arises when these meat that has live parasites on them are fed to domestic dogs, then, the parasites will colonize the dogs. The parasite can be transmitted to humans, by contact.

So…as long as you’re feeding your dogs with dog food, or uninfected meat, your dog is clear of any infection. And so are you!

Thirdly…

Muslims CAN rear dogs!

However, this statement is arguable.

People in the past, our great-great-great-great ancestors used to be farmers. They rear lambs and cows, and in this case, they are allowed to rear a dog to look after their cattle.

But, he has to place the dog outside of his house and it should be at the back, not in front of his house.

Why?

The dog should be outside of the house so that his house is ‘clean’ for him. You can’t expect him to ‘wash’ his house every day with six buckets of water and one bucket of water mixed with soil right?

And the dog has to be put at the back of his house because…(honestly, I’m not quite sure about this, but my dad told me this) the angels will enter every house from the front door. And if we put the dogs at the front, the angels will not enter because it’s ‘dirty’. Get it?

I hope I helped a lot of you with this dog issue.

My friend and I were walking down the road when we saw a large dog coming from the other direction. What she said was something I’ll never ever forget.

“It’s better for us to touch a dog than to touch a non-mahram”

Mahram is a group of individuals that is forbidden for us to marry legally in Islam. For example: our biological father/mother, biological siblings, biological grandmother/grandfather.

So, the non-mahrams are everybody else that could get married to us. For example: our 

cousins (even though it’s weird), friends, stranger walking down the road, etc. etc.

Lastly, I would like to stress on the fact that dogs are not haraam. *woof woof*

Wallahua’lam.

Kelantan-my own definition

Assalamualaikum, readers.

*gasp*

*gasp again* 

How long has it been since my last update? 7 months?

seriously? 

*falls to the ground*

So, it's been 4 years since I lived in Kelantan. There were lots of stigma about how Kelantan and the people really are. 

I've been planning to blog on this since first year but I kept forgetting...

Ready for the TOP 5 MYTHS about Kelantan that are not true?

anyways, here we go!

1- Kelantanese are poor

To be honest, I have no idea how do you judge a person poor or rich just by looking at the person.

Some people may drive imported cars, but they still struggle to pay their bills every month.

Some people don't own lots of jewelleries, but they have lots of savings in the bank.

Based on my observations, majority of Kelantanese are involved in business. Whether it's selling tudungs, kitchenware, vegetables and food or toys, they are up for it. And surprisingly, the ones you see running the business are both teenagers and the elderly. 

Pasar Siti Khadijah: 3 floors packed with all kinds of stuff you wanna shop for!

Most of the teens who start business at an early age are the ones who refuse to further studies and the elderly are just spending some time doing something else other than sitting on a lazy chair at home, watching TV and sleep all day.

Nevertheless, there are people who are so poor, they starve every day. I've came across a small boy eating french fries from the floor because he had no money to eat. 

2- Kelantan has no tar roads

This was the first thing I imagined when people even mention Kelantan. I've always imagined the roads were sandy with no tar, and people either walk or use bicycles to travel because they had no cars. 

*laughs hard*

Much to my surprise, people here drive imported cars and own more than one car! and yes, the roads are tarred!

3- Kelantan is an Islamic country, ALL Muslim women wear tudungs, zero crime rate.
It took me by surprise as well when I first stepped foot in Kelantan. 
Kelantan is ruled by an Islamic political party (PAS) and is by far the only state ruled by it. *PAS is known as the opposition party here*
The politicians in this party are very religious, or appear religious. I was told once that the state fines any Muslim women who does not cover their heads (part of aurah), about 10 years back. 
I have no idea what happened after that, but now, nobody is fined anymore. And so, you'll still see Muslim women exposing their hair, men and women who aren't married sitting so closely...just like anywhere else.
Zero crime rate? Pfftttt...
People has nothing to do with a state. If a person is bad, then, nothing you can do to change the person to a good one, none other than the person himself. That's pretty much it.
Not in the mood to elaborate on this any longer...

4- Kelantan is under developed, there's no proper buildings there.
Excuse you! 
There's a few malls in Kelantan now. And the malls are always packed with people. 
We have Sushi King, Domino's Pizza, Big Apple's, Watsons....you name it, we've got it! 
*eh, since when did I become a Kelantanese myself?* *oppssss*

5- Food in Kelantan are all sweet, highest diabetes prevalence.

Nasi kerabu

Not TRUE!

You can ask for your food to be less sweet, if you want. They'd actually make yours just the way you want it...

Kelantan also serve savoury food like sambal pedas and masak lemak cili padi. And, we also have nasi kerabu. It's pretty spicy because of the chilli...
About diabetes...
One question. Will you get diabetes if you drink two glasses of sugar dissolved in water?
NOPE!
You'd get diabetes if your Beta cells on your pancreas are resistant to glucose or your Beta cells are not producing enough insulin. 
If you exercise and monitor what you eat, you'll be safe from diseases. Nothing to do with the state or whatever.  

What do you think of Kelantan now?
I hope you realize that Kelantan is just another state, the people are as NORMAL as the ones in KL, Johor or Sarawak. 
They have the right to live, just as much as we do. 

Wallahua'lam.

BEWARE, mummies wannabe!

Assalamualaikum, readers.

I'll be cursing, screaming and shouting throughout the whole entry, so, if you don;t like to see a monster, just leave the blog immediately.

This entry is inspired by Sarimah and The Rod from The Mix Breakfast Show, based on what they were discussing this morning.

Lately, there's been a lot of people getting married at young ages, be it men or women. And most of them have just started working and owns a house that was presented as a wedding gift from their parents, and the house happens to be very close to their parents' place.
Basically, the kids are safe! Safe from any form of trouble, I would say.

"Mum, my husband and I will be having dinner tonight with you guys!"
"Dad, my wife's car broke down. Can she borrow your car?"

In my opinion, people who behave these ways are no different than when they were single. Marriage represents responsibilities, capability to solve problems among yourselves and most importantly, INDEPENDENCE. You should be able to stand on your feet with your partner and leave your parents to rest and not worry about you anymore.

Back to the main topic....

It has also become a "trend", or should I say "RACE" on who'll get pregnant first.

What does rapid pregnancy do to you and your so-called rivalries?

Will you get a bonus?
Will you get a diamond ring from your parents?
Will you get a free meal from your rivalry?

Baby, why are you so cute?

Wake up, people! The baby is not a toy!


And sadly, reality does not hit the mother until the baby finally comes out from her big round belly.

When she hears the baby crying every now and then, she gets annoyed!
When she tries to get some sleep, the baby asks to be fed, she gets mad!
When she tries to put the baby to sleep and it's taking her hours, she goes crazy!

She feels it's so much trouble to carry a newborn baby that needs her full attention in her arms at all times during family occasions, because all she wanted to do was show off her slim body after shedding off her pregnancy weight!

Whoa! I do sound mad!

I'm sorry...but I truly am. 

I'm talking based on my experiences watching a few women pregnant at young ages, or are trying to conceive right away after marriage...
Why are you rushing?

Are you even ready to carry the responsibilities of a parent? 

I just finished my paediatric posting at the hospital a couple of weeks back, and I watched lots of ignorant parents who are just too tired of taking care of their children. 
But, again, I'm not referring to all of them.

There was a baby who fell from her cradle and the mother didn't bring her child to the hospital right away. The next day, the baby suffered from a two hour seizure!

Another kid swallowed a cup of petrol because someone left some petrol in front of the house while repairing his motorbike. The mother was busy cooking in the kitchen!

The other kid had a fall while playing and he vomited right after that. But the father also didn;t bring the kid for check-up. By the time they came to the hospital, which was a few months later, the boy was suspected of having leukaemia with cerebral involvement.

Most of the things that happened here could be prevented if the parents were very careful and responsible towards their kids. 
And when I see these mummies wannabes who are just eager to show off to other people that they are pregnant and not think of what plans do they have for the kid after birth, it breaks my heart.

I knew this one person who has a boy after suffering from a miscarriage at about 3 months of pregnancy. She stopped breastfeeding after one month. And the baby has been on formula milk ever since. He has developed some sort of illness, where he has stomachache frequently. The parents say he has flatus. 
Surprisingly, and luckily though, the father of the kid is very alert of his needs and he takes care of his child like he is the mother. He knows how to put the kid to sleep better than his wife. 

Please, please, please...

I know I'm not married and I have no right to teach you people, but, I urge all of you to please spend a few minutes to think of your kid's future...

I know it's silly of me to think ahead of my life, but I have thought about my baby, or babies... ;)

I would wanna breastfeed my baby for as long as he/she needs, but no more than 2 years...
I would interact with him/her as I'm breastfeeding with him/her because I believe it's a very special moment between us. 
I would have extra milk supply in the fridge in case the baby is hungry at night, so that my husband won't be able to escape from his job as a Daddy at night. 50-50 right?
I would still spend some time with my husband, watching TV, asking him about work, cook, clean whatever...only when the baby is asleep and I have had my share of rest.
I won't hesitate to bring my baby to occasions, although it's gonna be tough, with the baby stroller, diaper bag, bottle, bib, extra clothes (just in case)...the list goes on and on...

"You have no idea what it's like to be a mother!"
"That's easy for you to say, you haven;t a clue what I'm dealing with!"
"Pfffttt...budak hingus!"

I get it! I'm not married...I don't understand half the things you're going through...but at least I have a plan. 
Trust me, I watched a lot of movies, listened to the Dr(s) in the lecture halls, and they have provided me with more than enough information to keep me paranoid when I'm around other kids. 
Imagine how paranoid I'd be with my own kid?

- Nobody can touch my kid without proper sanitation
- Video camera will be put in the nursery, in case things happened when my husband and I were away
- Baby can't play on his/her own without supervision
- Baby will only play with very clean toys, trust me, it's Dettol soaked clean.
- Emergency numbers are on speed dial. Husband who has a medical background is a bonus

The list goes on and on...when something bad happens to other kid, I'll add something new to my list.
You don't have to be as paranoid as me, but please, read books on parenting, how to deal when something bad happens....

Wallahua'lam...

a piece of me

Assalamualaikum, readers.
Today i'll share something about myself...
i am a girl who loves entertainment. music, dance, sports (i prefer cheerleading the participants), arts and crafts...you name it, i love them all.
And i honestly love music. i don;t know how or why, but i just love them.
i grew up listening to Michael Jackson and Raihan, a local Islamic band, then took a turn to meet Westlife (Seasons in The Sky was the first song i ever heard), and then came my Bollywood era. it was until i was somewhat in high school that i heard the latest pop music of Hollywood and the Malay-wood. 

having a dad who used to earn a living by singing, he encouraged me to sing, helped me practice for my nasyeed when i was a little girl. so, i've been singing ever since. and still am. *peace* My dad used to sing in wedding ceremonies, to entertain the guests, just for fun...and he still does! and i'm one of the loudest girl cheering for my dad!
when i enter a room of entertainers, i get excited. i get chills when i watch a live concert. i watched them over and over again, and scream along with the crowd, sing along and even clap my hands if they do some crazy stunts on stage. that's just how i am.
so, can you imagine what it'd be like if i was in a live performance, how would i react? yeahh, exactly! 

"Let me hear you sing!"

I don;t feel good to not cheer when i see people giving their all to entertain me, and yet i just sit there, legs crossed and leaning back in my chair, hands on my knees, with a look that says, "that's the best you could give me? meh!" 

if i could, i would stand in the crowd and cheer them all the way till the end. that's just me. i am like a little cheerleader. it's the adrenaline rush that feels so good after i've let it all out. i don't have any regrets after cheering, i feel good. 

but...

being a Muslim, this is not right. some say, clapping our hands during an event is not nice, because it gets us excited for the wrong reasons, you forget the reason you were there to learn something new, but after you clap or hands and laugh, your niat changes to just wanna have some good old fun. 

it is extremely hard for me to pretend i don;t feel like clapping or laughing at the jokes, when i feel like doing so...

guess what? that's exactly what i'd do.

in a conclusion, i know i will have to change myself for the better, but i don;t know when will i ever do so. hopefully, i will...

mission impossible

*jeng jeng jeng jeng*

Assalamualaikum and g'day people...
If you think i went skydiving or rock climbing, no, i didn't do any of that.

then, wassup with the mission impossible?

here's the thing.
i attended a religious discussion session and the leader of the discussion told us something interesting...something i've never thought about so deeply. i'm going to share two stories from the Holy Quran with you guys.

# Story 1
You know how Prophets back then lived for thousands of years, maybe not thousands, but hundreds of years? Prophet Zakaria was an old man, hundreds of years old, i believe, and he does not have a kid. so, he prayed and prayed to God for a kid, and he never stopped praying. 
One day, God told him (via angels) He's going to grant his wish, by presenting him a son, Yahya. and the Prophet couldn't believe it.

He said: "O my Lord! How can I have a son when I am very old, and my wife is barren?" Allah said: "Thus Allah does what He wills." (Chapter 3, verse 40, The Holy Quran)

for a person like us, who studies Science, do you think it's possible for this to happen? We all know that in order to produce a fetus, we need an ovum and a sperm. but if the Prophet's wife is infertile, how is she producing the ovum, thus, logically, there will be no baby. 

# Story 2
Have you heard of the name Maryam? the Bible refers her as the Virgin Mary. in the Holy Quran, it is stated that Maryam has not married anyone and yet, she was pregnant with a son, Isa. 

She said: "O my Lord! How shall I have a son when no man has touched me." He said: "So (it will be) for Allah creates what He wills. When He has decreed something, He says to it only: "Be!" and it is. (Chapter 3, verse 47, the Holy Quran)

again, i would like to relate with scientific knowledge, is this possible? how can a woman gets pregnant with a son if she does not have sexual intercourse with anybody? 

well, some girls get pregnant by swimming in the pool. sperms can survive in the pool and maybe somehow gets into her.

hmm...smart guess. 
let me remind you that Maryam lived in the desert, where water is so difficult to find. i don;t think we have a public swimming pool at that time. 
the thing is, there's no explaination to these two scenarios. and these are just two of the crazy, impossible stories that i learnt from the discussion. 
why is God telling us these stories? why's His plan?
in simple language, He wants us to believe that He can do the most impossible thing we could think of. 

the Hereafter. 

i cannot imagine how awesome and cooling the heavens are like. how the rivers flow free, with pretty angels entertaining the people there. Wow! and there are 7 heavens altogether. What? 
can you imagine how hot the flames are in hell? and the people will not just rot it hell, they'll live and get burnt and die and live again, the cycle goes on and on. ouch! how insane and painful is that? 

Point is, as a believer (read: not BELIEBER) we need to put our trust in God. If He says "Be!" then, that's what it is. He has created the Earth, the planets, the universe, what's so impossible with the Hereafter? 
think about it...nothing's impossible.

i love you...let's get married now!

Assalamualaikum and good day people! 
*a little hyper now, so, just bare with me*

we've heard about girls and boys fell for each other, go out on dates and then lived happily ever after...or not? *clears throat*
as a Muslim, things like this is forbidden. i've written a post about this before, long time ago, but the entry was written in Malay. *somehow, the article is no more there!*
growing up, my parents used to tell me how they'd prefer Chinese way of coupling. most of them are really serious and committed when it comes to coupling. the first two years are the 'get-to-know-you' phase. they'll bring along this friend to meet their parents indirectly, just to let them know they've got their eyes on the person. after two years, things kindda get serious, they've declared that they're an item. so, when will they take the next step? to be honest, the next step takes about 5-10 years. and they'd wait!
the guys usually would want to have a steady job, own a house AND a car, some thousands of cash in the bank and still have some money in his hands BEFORE he even asks the girl to marry him. *applause* 
being a student in the university, where people are already in their twenties, they're starting to think about the future.

"Will i ever meet my other half?"

"He's the best among all the others i've met here...maybe he's the one!"

"What if i got too caught up in work and i have no time to go searching for the one?"

these are some of the thoughts that Malays are thinking...i'm not being racist. i'm just...being honest? come on, guys. i bet you've been through this too...

and when you think it's over, and you attend the conferences about love in Islam and such, the panels would encourage you to get married early. they'd say things like, "It's hard...but i've been there and look where i am now? i have 5 kids, a successful career and a girl by my side, and i'm just 30 years old!" *audience gasps*

but, let's be realistic. 

i've got the rings right here. please say YES?

1- finance

if you're studying, your source of income comes from scholarship or your parents. let's say, you really get married, you'll have to give your wife some money every month. how much can you provide? RM 300? You think that's enough? 

"But she's sponsored too! RM 300 more is a BONUS!!"

okay, fine. now you've both graduated, where will your income come from? remember this, none of you are working. if you're thinking of getting a loan from your parents, please kill yourself! marriage means you're no longer under your parents wings, and that you stand as a unit with your partner. your parents love you, of course and they won't hesitate to give you money, but get this in your mind. you fail as a child if you turn back to your parents. 

2- a place called HOME?

say, you're married. if you are still studying in a university, and the both of you are living in two different places, it's okay...coz you have your own hostel to live in. now, you've graduated, and you need a place to stay with your partner.
"We can live in my room. i can make some space"
"My house is HUGEEE, HUMONGOUS! there's lots of spare rooms..."
i can accept this up to until your wife is pregnant. after pregnancy, if you remain in your parents house, you fail, man! seriously? 
living in your parents house means you don;t have much privacy because everything involves your parents. watching movies is not private anymore, saying lovey dovey things to your partner ANYTIME of the day is inappropriate...but of course, it's easier because half of your work load is off your shoulders...

3- romantic stroll
please, tell me you at least have a transport? a motorbike at least. i'm not demanding for things...it's just that, in my opinion, you need all these if you would want a steady relationship, at least during the first few years of marriage. can you imagine when the both of you are tired from all the stress of studying and you want to go out to have some fun, and you don;t have transport. the girl would crack under pressure...at least i will! and you guys would end up in a fight, yadda yadda...

conclusion is, i believe that a man who wants to ask a girl to marry him should at least have whatever that's listed above. this shows how steady you are...and that you've equipped yourself with everything that a girl needs in a relationship. 
all relationships are like climbing a hill. you'll have cramps and aches, need to stop for a break, even injure yourself, dehydrated...but once you reach the top, your lungs expand to the fullest and you could see the beauty that lies ahead of you. 
i don't think i'll get married while studying...me living on my own is hard enough, imagine if i have to live with someone and cope with the commitment of being a wife. no thanks...i'll wait!
~big jobs, stack of cash, huge mansion and a sports car cannot guarantee that one will have a successful, happy marriage. it all comes down to how strong your commitments and tolerance are to one another.

P/S: if you think you can cope without any of the things listed above, go ahead. =)

do you believe in ghosts?

Assalamualaikum, readers.
this entry is rather controversial., but i just have got to write it down...for no reason.
i've watched a lot of horror/thriller movies, be it Hollywood, Bollywood and even local movies and they all come down to one same element...faith in God. 
i bet you guys have watched The Conjuring before. i simply choose this movie, coz it's easier to discuss here.
basically, there was a witch who died in the house the family just moved in. the family does not believe in God, their kids have never been baptised before. i bet they don;t go to church either.
in Islam, the first thing a person does once they move into a new house, it is recommended to perform a ceremony where everyone recites the Holy Quran and read some prayers to 'clean' the house from evil spirits. we believe that these creatures exists, but we can't see them. and they live with us in our everyday life, they won't bother us if we leave them alone.  
same goes to other culture, you can read more here. 
So, in the movie, they have not much faith in God, and therefore, they are more prone to being bothered by these spirits. 

are they friendly like Casper?

Let's see how 'bothered' were the ghostbusters, the husband and wife. They chase away unwanted spirits from others, but how come the ghosts don't disturb them?
please don;t tell me the ghosts are afraid of the couple. that's not true.
the trick is, the couple are very faithful to God. the evidence is shown when the husband explained that they'd perform some ritual ceremony in the room where he keeps all the dolls. plus, he's always holding a Bible.
so, my theory is, ghosts, demons and evil-spirits love people who are not faithful to God. when you are close to God, your faith is strong. people who have no faith are weak, and it becomes easier for them to take charge of your life.
in the case of Malay movies, the people who are 'disturbed' are those who doesn't pray and recites the Quran. and the house are full of funny furnitures that the creatures love. at least, that's what we believe in.
i need to also tell you something. this may sound superstitious, but it's what the old people used to say. don't go out at night, especially after sundown. it's the time where the creatures love to roam around...their time to wake up. also, if you see or smell something funny, don;t mention it...don;t say it out loud, because they believe that the creatures would hear you and they'd know you're afraid...and weak.

i don;t remember all of them, but i usually don;t question much and just follow what's been told to me.
conclusion is, you need to have strong faith in God...and believe that these creatures exists. because it also happens that if you challenge them, they'd appear more powerful, because they'd like to give you a piece if them. so, please don;t do anything stupid by playing an Ouija board, calling some spirits to talk to you.  

giving up...

Assalamualaikum and good day people..
i'm supposed to finish covering my lecture notes but i just got a new idea to write...i'll keep this short.

Just give up.

wait, isn't giving up a negative thing?
giving up here only applies after you tried your very hardest and things still don;t turn up great, then please give up already.

before i share things that happened to me, let me share a few stories about a celebrity i love and adore.

meet the Lachey's  =)

Nick Lachey (the guy from 98 degrees) dated Vanessa Minnillo (a model) for more than 5 years and finally got married in 2011. After they got married, the very thing on their wishlist is to become parents. They have been trying really hard to get pregnant, but still there were no good news. She finally gave up trying after almost one year and thought to herself, "Okay, i'm gonna relax and have fun. The baby can come when the time comes" 

Guess what? 

Two weeks later, she got pregnant. Nine months later, came baby Camden Lachey with dark hair and blue eyes. he's an angel. 

Now, i would like to share some of my personal experiences about giving up.

1- tried to join a group where people talk about religion and stuff for a year, and nothing happened. I told a friend to help out and somehow my heart gave up that night. i thought to myself that night, "God, this is my last resort. if i still don't get any god news about this, i believe it's a sign from you. maybe this is what's best for me"

I woke up the next day, totally forgotten about what happened the night before. Two days later, i got a text from a classmate, an invite to join her religious group. What?

2- when i first entered the university, i was so afraid on how to make new friends. and it got harder when i realized every other girls actually made friends with all the boys in the batch. somewhere along the line, i guess i pretty much gave up on having a guy friend. 

what happened a few weeks later surprised me. I was in the cafe, lining up for food and one of the guys in my batch came up to me and literally introduced himself to me.

now, i have lots of guy friends. just friends.

3- had a class where i'm gonna have to remove calculus from teeth. it was hard and my hands become numb from all the manual scaling. we have two hours to do this every week. usually, by 45 minutes, my back aches and i sigh a lot. I'll start calculating the time left for the class to end. That's when things start to change. The Dr would come around and pass my work. I got to move on to a different teeth. I advanced. 

moral of the story, things would only work out when you really give up and leave everything to God...but with one exception, you've gave it your all.

Thinking about something over and over again in your head may stress out your system and nothing would work out...so, chill...

when you're stressed, relax. take a moment to breathe and try again. if you fail, relax. have faith that things would work out the next time. don;t give up TOO easily, it won;t work either. ^_~

tundukkan pandangan

Assalamualaikum dan salam sejahtera semua... *entry kali nie ber-Bahasa Melayu eh..*

ema rasa, semua perempuan pernah dengar ayat nie... 
"Tundukkan pandangan bila berjalan depan lelaki, rendahkan suara..."

apa maksud ayat tu sebenarnya?
dia nak kita tunduk pandang lantai ja ka bila berjalan? habis tu kalau tak nampak jalan, accident, mati macam mana?
sebenarnya, ema pernah pikir macam tu jugak sebelum ni. tapi, selepas beberapa tahun, baru ema rasa ema paham maksud ayat tu.

ema rasa, ayat "Tundukkan pandangan bila jalan depan lelaki" bermaskud...
1- kalau nak pandang muka lelaki tu boleh. Tapi jangan pandang mata dia. pandang benda-benda lain, macam hidung, telinga atau dagu dia.
2- bila bercakap, jaga suara. tapi jangan lunakkan. itu salah, sebab kita sengaja ja nak nampak ayu. dia ada kaitan dengan lelaki la. takut nanti dia pulak berdosa sebab puji atau cakap "sedapnya suara minah nie...aduhhh!"
3- kekalkan rasa malu dengan lelaki tu. tapi jangan la masa cakap tu, dok tersipu-sipu, tutup muka dengan tudung...itu bukan malu namanya. 

harapnya tak de la lagi orang yang jalan pandang lantai setiap kali jalan depan lelaki, sampai tak nampak orang kat depan. kalau terlanggar lelaki tu, lagi teruk akibat dia... ^_~

parenting skills

Assalamualaikum and good day readers.
It's been a while since i blogged. This time, i'm not kidding. it's been a while.
anyways...

parenting skills. 
why parenting skills? am i a parent? nope. for the past few weeks, i've been learning about learning theories. and i realized only my mum used the grounded rule. my friends simply said their parents never ground them before. what??? seriously???
truthfully, i've been grounded since i was 7 up until i was 16, perhaps? yeap. it was that long...and torturing. 
since primary school, my mum would cut my pocket money if i scored low in my exams. 
if i misbehave, she'd take the things i love. growing up, TVB drama and wrestling were my favourite. we didn't have handphones or MP3 back then, so TV is my life! 
if i come home late after hanging out with friends (this only happened after 16), then, it means more time spent studying. she'd watch me gather books from the room into the kitchen and she'd keep up with how many times i get up from the chair. yeah, she's really strict. 
we faught a lot. i slammed hundreds of doors, cried thousands of times...but, i'm glad that's how my mum brought me up. 

a few weeks ago, i had the chance to live with my uncle and aunt in Perlis. My uncle is a senior lecturer in a local university. he's very laid back but firm. i watched how he tried to convince his youngest to go to school when she was feeling a little lazy.
"Papa, malas la nak pi sekolah" She climbed on the sofa and rested her head on his shoulder.
"Mana boleh malas...tak boleh macam tu, Asma" He spoke softly, eyes on the Quran.
"Hari ni hari Isnin, ada Ko-K, kelas tambahan...malas la Papa"
"Oh, hari nie ada Ko-K? Hmm...tak pa la...sat ja. jangan malas, dah-dah pi sekolah"
"Okay, Papa. Salam" 

Trust me, if it was my Abah, he'd say a different thing. or not. i mean, he wakes up really early to go to work, so we don't talk much in the morning. nanti mood kacau la, i dunno. businessman have their own ways in the morning.
watching my Uncle, i thought maybe a little listening and assurance might help a kid not whine in the morning. 

i don't have a conclusion. but from what i know, being a nice, loving parent only works until the kid is 5-6 years old. once they're 7, you've got to start implementing some rules in the house. teenage years are the worst, so, you've gotta play the game smart. some parents made it through being loving and supportive. in my case, being strict all the way is the key. once the kids are between the age 18-25, just support and be loving again. 
will this work? no one knows. just pray it will.