Situation: In the OT. Specialists crowd by the patient and we can't see anything.
"No la..I'm a good girl"
"Huh? Meaning having a boyfriend makes you a bad girl?" She has a boyfriend.
I pat her back. "I'm not saying you're a bad person because you have a boyfriend..."
The chaos in the OT stopped our conversation.
Assalamualaikum, readers.
This topic has been an issue, something I debated with myself over the past years. And each year, or with different situations I encounter, I would have different opinions about it.
When I was in lower secondary, I believed that I will date a person before I get married. Because I wanna know how good/bad they are, and if they are bad, I would eventually stop the marriage from taking place.
When I entered matrics or 1st year in dentistry, I realized I wanted to get married to someone my parents choose for me. That way, I would get blessings and I simply love surprises.
When I was in matrics also, I came across friends who were dating. Some didn't let their parents know about their relationship with boys, and I believed this is wrong. That we should never embarrass our parents and make sins behind their back.
Most of them were dating and their family knew about it. I thought it was okay, since the parents already knew about this, nothing could go wrong. And the parents have given their blessings anyways.
Boy, was I wrong.
Ever heard of stories of good girl dating supposedly-good-boy and after date #16 the girl didn't come back home that one night, where she had a not-so-consensual-sexual-intercourse with her boyfriend? Even worse, the parents knew this boy since he brought her to prom and date night every weekend. *gasp*
How does parents acknowledgements have anything to do with the event that has scarred their precious daughter's life forever?
Ever since then, my perspective changed 360 degrees.
That's when I decided to not fall in love, go dating or whatever. Arranged marriage was definite. Probably would never go out on dates with my future husband, or maybe go out with my brother accompanying me or even better my dad. hahaha...
Again, it's a choice.
You wanna fall in love, go out on dates and love marriage, I pray for your happiness. InsyaAllah...
Wallahua'lam...
This topic has been an issue, something I debated with myself over the past years. And each year, or with different situations I encounter, I would have different opinions about it.
When I was in lower secondary, I believed that I will date a person before I get married. Because I wanna know how good/bad they are, and if they are bad, I would eventually stop the marriage from taking place.
When I entered matrics or 1st year in dentistry, I realized I wanted to get married to someone my parents choose for me. That way, I would get blessings and I simply love surprises.
When I was in matrics also, I came across friends who were dating. Some didn't let their parents know about their relationship with boys, and I believed this is wrong. That we should never embarrass our parents and make sins behind their back.
Most of them were dating and their family knew about it. I thought it was okay, since the parents already knew about this, nothing could go wrong. And the parents have given their blessings anyways.
Boy, was I wrong.
Ever heard of stories of good girl dating supposedly-good-boy and after date #16 the girl didn't come back home that one night, where she had a not-so-consensual-sexual-intercourse with her boyfriend? Even worse, the parents knew this boy since he brought her to prom and date night every weekend. *gasp*
How does parents acknowledgements have anything to do with the event that has scarred their precious daughter's life forever?
Ever since then, my perspective changed 360 degrees.
That's when I decided to not fall in love, go dating or whatever. Arranged marriage was definite. Probably would never go out on dates with my future husband, or maybe go out with my brother accompanying me or even better my dad. hahaha...
Again, it's a choice.
You wanna fall in love, go out on dates and love marriage, I pray for your happiness. InsyaAllah...
Wallahua'lam...
