orphan

two days before, i did watch one of the most-talked about movie in 2009, Orphan. i watched this movie before this with a couple of friends, just that i couldn't hear any of the whisperings and explainations because i was watching with two other friends and the audio wasn't that good. so, i was not satisfied, and i watched again, this time, it was just me. 

this movie has taught me a lot. that;s the whole idea of watching a movie right? you take the good things in it and totally forget about the not-so-important parts. *and the other thing about movies is i'll write reviews on them. tehee...* 

first of all, the whole idea of a mother losing her child during labor is heartbreaking. be it one year, two years, the terror follows her wherever she goes. as a husband, he should do more than just letting your wife meet a 'shrink' every week. you should be talking to your wife about how she feels about losing the child, grief together as a family-include the kids, pray for the little kid, and soon, the mother would move on with life. she finally would be able to let go of the kid, and focusing on her kids, husband and career. so, that's mistake #1. 

next, a mother-in-law, should be more than understanding when it comes to the daughter-in-law's career. she might be facing her downfall of her career, and the last thing she need is sarcasm from her mother-in-law. by right, a mother-in-law should be more than understanding and provide the daughter-in-law with some space for her to pick herself up again. in this case, the best thing a mother-in-law can do is just keep quiet. obviously, the lady has faced so much in life, she needs support & time, not sarcasm. 

the third thing that bugs me is the fact of adopting a grown-up kid. what's up with that? if you really wanna adopt a kid, try a younger version of a kid. i mean, that's the whole thing about adopting, right? how could you ever thought adopting an older kid would not cause you any trouble? older kids think twice as fast a younger kid, and they have learnt a lot in the world, nothing would ever stop them, they manipulate you. so, yeah, that's also a mistake. so, peeps, if you're thinking of adopting someone, try a younger child. younger kids are very naive, they play around, they make your day!

mistake #4. you might adopt a kid, but your kids are not to be pushed aside. plus, your kid is a boy. who would ever want to hang out in the living room, opening up presents and be happy? i mean, you're not even my sister and you dress funny! as a dad, you should be paying attention to your kid, even though you've adopted another one. a great dad would be able to find times to spend with all his kids. i totally get the idea that orphans need more love and affection, but your kids are not to be pushed aside. not an option! 
well, that's not all. parents should have the whole idea of privacy no matter where they go, what they do. there's no such thing as parents keeping their bedroom door unlocked. there are things that should only be shared between a husband and a wife. these things are called PRIVATE stuff. private stuff needs privacy. these include having intimate times, discussing about kids, career, medications and even secrets. these stuffs listed above should only be shared among the two, not to be heard by anybody at all. nobody should discuss about their kids' behaviour in an open area, be it the kitchen or the living room. go out, have a walk, whisper while you're in the bedroom. after all, bedroom is the most private place of all in a house. when dealing with other people, talking about sensitive issues, set a date, talk over dinner, never talk in the house when the child is present.

last but not least, one should really go through with a kid's past before adopting them. ask the person in-charge of everything you want to know. where she came from, who adopted her first, how did that relationship went. if there's anything fishy about the kid, seek for answers. if the answers are too complicated, pick another kid. it's not like there aren't any kids around to pick as an adopted child. 
one more thing i realized when i watched this movie is there's lack of mother-daughter or father-son or father-daughter or mother-son relationship. i mean, the parents talk to their kids over dinner and after school, but the parents never really sat down and give 100% attention and having a good conversation with their kids. the parents son't spend much time with their kids, which led their kids to trouble. the boy in the movie hang out in his tree house most of the time, checking out porn magazines, have no idea how to communicate with his sister, talked the least to his mother after school. parents should really sit down one-on-one with their kids, spend some quality time with their kids. there should be trust in the relationship. only then, problems can be avoided. obviously, there's not much trust going on in the family. when the mother asks her kids if Esther was threatening them, or making them feel uncomfortable, both the kids shook their heads, because they were so scared and they believe their mother won't make things better. by right, the kids should let their mother know what's been going on. and this could be accomplished, with trust!

ramadhan al-Mubarak

to tell you the truth, it's already the 3rd of Ramadhan. Subhanallah, how time flies. the   most important thing is not the Eid, but how well you organize your time so that your one month of Ramadhan is filled with the best of the best ibadah. just like a New Year's Revolution, you'd make a wishlist, full of stuff you wish to change and things you would want to achieve in a whole year. same with Ramadhan, just that you only get one month instead of one whole year. 

so far, Ramadhan's been kind to me. i faced my final exams during fasting period. it was very tiring, but it was worth it. i believe He gave me more than i could ever ask for. i mean, in confusion & in stress mode, when you can't think of anything, He did help. and yet, the answers i wrote down was correct! Alhamdulillah..

i have been trying to keep up with my Dhuha prayers, and Alhamdulillah, my Dhuha prayers have been consistent over the week. i hope i can keep up with Dhuha throughout Ramadhan and even after Ramadhan. Dhuha prayers is really easy, will not take much of time, but the thing is you feel closer to Him, you pray more than other people. you talk more with Him. that's really good. 
i'm not perfect, though. my terawih has ups and downs. i mean, for some reason, when i have other things to do like accompanying my friend to the bus station, i left my terawih. a good person would never leave behind an ibadah. *point is, i'm not perfect* and that's not all! i've been struggling to keep up with my Ma'thurat. and still, i'm drowning in myself. i can't seem to recite the Ma'thurat. will find a way so that i start loving the Ma'thurat as much as i love reciting the Quran. 
well, that's pretty much it. and yes, try to pledge to yourself that you would spend as little as possible on food, so that you would avoid wasting. try to think about what you really wanna eat, and how much can you eat at one time. if you wanna buy some junk food, limit yourself to only one junk food at one time. only by doing this, you would avoid wasting. all the best people. 

Mr Handsome

sometimes, he's the reason i keep checking my Twitter account. and he never let me down...

Amalina Zakaria, You were mentioned in a Tweet!
Fiqrie @FiqrieIsNowRed Haha it was a rather spontaneous thing. But yea, it was :-) RT “@bubblyema: @iloveredfm wasnt it worth the journey? #MissingPenang” 08:30 PM - 08 Jul 12 via Twitter for iPhone

no make-up

wassup with the title, dude? am i the type who go out without any make-up? well, i would agree. i mean, i go to the cafe with talcum powder. but no, the title has nothing to do with me-sekadar berkongsi.

dont wanna look like i just woke up from
bed on my wedding day *pic:Demi Lovato*

now, i want you readers to look at yourself in the mirror. *get a small mirror at look at yourself, NOW!*
then, imagine yourself in THAT face @ look you're in, getting married. and when i say married, please don't imagine yourself with beautiful eye shadow what not. no. just that face you just looked in the mirror and your wedding. meaning to say that, you're n your wedding day without applying any make-up on.
boleh x imagine? imagine diri sendiri x berdandan @ bersolek pada hari perkahwinan, yang akan berlangsung sekali sahaja seumur hidup. *insyaAllah x ada kali kedua*
jangankan korang, ema sendiri x boleh imagine diri ema without any make-up on my own wedding day. even now, i've planned stuff-especially the make-up part. knowing that i have dark complexion, i would not wanna look like a total ZOMBIE on my wedding day. i dont want the make-up artist *fuyohh! ayat dalam bahasa org puteh high standard gila! org melayu panggil mak andam je pun...* to simply dab on too much foundation, cream, whatever-you-call-it on my face, for the sake to look WHITE & FAIR on my wedding day. 
plus, being a Muslim, you know that accessories like fake eyelashes, too thick foundation is forbidden in Islam. and i wouldn't wanna burden my husband *then, not now* with my sins, on the very first day i become his wife. tak nak! 
but i've never thought to not apply make-up at all on my wedding day. 
in the first place, ada ka org yg sanggup bergambar on her wedding day without any make-up? tau2 jelah muka sendiri kan? mesti ada kesan jerawat, kulit kusam, jeragat...*aceh, macam advertistment produk muka la plak!* kita mesti nak look beautful, x nak tunjuk kat org yang muka kita ada jerawat kat sini & situ kan? 
tapi, ada sorang akak nie, dia mmg betul2 cuci muka dia smpai bersih after the mak andam make-up kan dia. sebab dia x nak tabarruj. dia mintak maaf ngan mak andam nie, dressed up in her wedding outfit and then keluar drpd bilik pengantin. orang yang ada kat luar bilik tu terkejut and tanya dia, 'x make-up ke?' guess what she did, she smiled without saying anything. and yes, dia tangkap gambar kahwin without any make-up on! 

wanna look all natural, not too much make-up on
my wedding day *pic:Demi Lovato*

terror kan akak tu? satu tindakan yang memerlukan keberanian, tekad...dia x menyesal pun in the end, sbb dia yakin itulah tindakan yang betul. 
after reading her post, i started thinking, 'will i be able to be ANYTHING like her?'


P/S: antara dua picture yang ema letak pun, mesti korang dah boleh differentiate which Demi look is more beautiful & acceptable on a wedding day kan?

P P/S: suka Demi sekarang. x tau kenapa. plus, she's gossiped with Niall from One Direction. so cute!

breaking up

breaking up hurts. this doesn't mean i've felt the breaking-up-feeling before. you just can see how much it hurts, when you read a story, listen to a story or watch someone breaking up. it's way easier for someone to make his/her mind to break-up with someone, but the truth is, when the person look into the eyes of the lover, they stutter, babble...and even worse, they can't give a reason to end the relationship.
what am i trying to say again?
i've been seeing people breaking up and then back on tracks and then breaking up again. well, my whole life is surrounded with people trying to make things work, break-ups, new relationships and more break-ups. now, most recent is the story of two love birds who broke up about two months ago and the lady is STILL not over the man. instead of trying to forget, or moving on with her life, the lady posted pictures of them, once upon a time. and the lady weeps about it. i dont blame her, but still, don't you think when the relationship is OVER, you're supposed to try not to IGNITE whatever spark that is left in inside of you, when the man obviously isn't interested in sparking up stuff?
sometimes, i feel that i shouldn't feel sad when people break-up. in the end, they are doing some good for themselves right?

stress mode

yesterday i blew off my time with Youtube. i was online almost every two hours because i just can't seem to 'let go' of the internet. FYI, i'm having my finals in like what-two weeks?? *woman screammsss!* (you'd totally get the woman screammms part if you tune to Red FM) 
point is, i was wasting my time watching all kinds of music videos...
from Chris Brown's Don't Wake Me Up to Cody Simpson *cute Aussie* Got Me Good. and then i watched Big Time Rush's 'Music Sounds Better With You' when i was pretty much smiling throughout the video. these boys are so cute! cuter than One Direction, in a more adult-ish & macho way. these boys are in their 20's. AWHHH!
so, these boys are Kendall, Logan, Carlos & James. they star in a Nickelodeon show, Big Time Rush. these boys are all either 21 or 22 years old and only two of them are dating someone in real life, which is Carlos *well just found out he broke up already with his girlfriend* & James. Kendall seems to have broken up with some girls and Logan totally denied dating rumours with Demi Lovato. he claimed that they are just friends. okay...
so, yeah, these boys' tracks are so awesome...here's a few which i love so much!
1- Elevate
2- Music Sounds Better With You
3- Any Kind Of Guy
4- Till I Forget About You
5- Windows Down