trust

i've got 5 minutes to blog because i have a lot of things to do. 
1st of all, i would like to let everyone know something super duper important.

NEVER TRUST WHATEVER PEOPLE SAY NO MATTER WHAT

you may have friends telling you this and that, but please, don't straight away trust them. that's what i went through. too many friends, too many info. in the end, i had bad impression on a person who did nothing wrong to me.

and after i found out the REAL REAL truth, i got very upset with myself. because i've had the wrong impression on a person. 

so, please. trust nobody!

read this article. it's written in Malay, but the situations and exactly what we are facing everyday. 

children are allowed to get mad too...

Assalamualaikum, readers.
tonight (it's 7.30 pm here), i would like to share a YouTube video with all of you. This is something different, something i've never tried before. 
i want you guys to watch the video by clicking on the link below and after that, read through the rest of the entry.
Click the link below:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WOlpdd7y8MI

so, what do you think of the video? was it funny or was it heartbreaking watching kids cry in front of the camera?

first of all, this video was up on Facebook a long time ago, but the comments i read on the page was very rude and i thought of writing this entry a few months ago, but i was so caught up with my students' life, i had no time to write about it.

Some of the comments i read when the video was shared include, "the kids behave like their parents" and "if the kids are rude, the parents are just the same"

You see, i have a different opinion.
imagine yourself as the kid, dressed up for hours in the evening, put on a heavy costume that makes you feel hot and sweaty inside, walking from house to house seeking for some candies. Some parents only give their children an hour or so to Trick-Or-Treat. 
there's still chances of knocking on a cranky neighbour's door that shoos them off.
and they come back, tired from all the walking and happy for a bag full of candies.
for once, they feel like they've earned something in life.
it's just candies, but it still feels like earning money. you go through a lot of hardship in one night and get a whole bucket of candies. 
and they can't even eat the candies because it already so late, and the parents would rush them to bed. 
the very next day, the parents let them know they've ate all of the candies! what??

yes, they have the right to get mad. it has nothing to do with how the parents bring up the kids. children are allowed to get frustrated and sad and EXPRESS them. it's not wrong.
but of course, the kids who were so happy that their parents ate all their candies might have some reasons not to get upset. maybe they didn't have any favourite candies in their bucket, maybe Trick-or-Treating weren't that nice after all. we'd never know. or maybe they just don't care. 
thing is, kids shouldn't be blamed just for feeling upset and expressing them to their parents. 
Thanks...

pre-marriage guidelines

Assalamualaikum, readers. how are you guys doing?
InsyaAllah, i hope all of you are in god health. I'm doing fine here.
i know lately, i've been talking about kids and marriage, but it doesn't mean anything. it's just that i have lots of ideas on this topic right now.

my entry this time is about pre-marriage guidelines, according to Islam. 
Islam educates us to find out more about our going-to-be lifetime partner by asking people about the other half. 
for example, Mr G likes Miss K and he goes around asking Miss K's friends or neighbours about what's she like, does she cook, is she good with the elders, is she working...stuff like that. and if Mr G is satisfied with the answers, then the next step could be taken, engagement. usually, these information about the groom or bride would be the job of the parents and family members. *they seem to have more reliable 'sources'* 
however, there is some limits set by Islam. you can't ask too many questions, because that is not good, like you don't respect the other as a person. 
you don't ask questions like what time does she wake up in the morning or does she sing in the shower. that's rude. the whole point of getting some information about the other half is just a rough idea if she's a nice person, suitable to be your other half. 
what if we skip this step?
i watched a movie with my family the other day, Killers, starred by Ashton Kutcher and Katherine Heigl. in the movie, these two met in France and fell in love instantly. They spent the whole week with each other and Katherine brought him home to meet her parents. He told them he was a pilot, but he actually kill people for a living. Katherine didn't know this and got married to him anyways. After three years, people around them tried to kill him and Katherine felt like she was cheated and betrayed for three years. 
Moral of the story?
if Katherine would have followed the guidelines in Islam as above, she would ask around and see if he was really a pilot, is he still a pilot, and which company does he works for. information like previous jobs, does he own a car, does he have any family can only be obtained if you have sources. 

I hope you get the relevance of this entry. things like this only make me appreciate the reasons why Islam is so particular in everything. it may sound troublesome, but there's always a good reason behind it.
I would like to stress that these things can be applied even if you're a non-Muslim. this isn't a prayer, they're just some guidelines and you can follow them if you think it's good for you. no harm done.
Thanks for reading and happy marrying!

down on one knee

Assalamualaikum, readers.
Tonight, i am not in the mood. i have so many things to do, but after putting my sleep aside, i managed to finish a couple of things on my To-do list. but i still have dinner and some reading to do for tomorrow's class on my list. yet, i have some time to update my blog. *smacks face*
i was scrolling down Facebook when i saw an image which gave me an idea on this entry.

so, that was the image. what's going through your mind right now?

"One of the reasons why i want my husband to propose in front of my family members" was what went through my brain.

i actually told my mum this and she asked me back, why would i want my husband to propose in front of her and the rest of the family.

my answer: it's a proof that i'm not making it up.

she laughed.

i don't need a spy-photographer who hides in the bush to snap this beautiful moment. i have my family members to always remind me of the beautiful moment.

That's all! bye!

what about Time-out?

Assalamualaikum readers.
I know its a little too early to talk about kids, since i'm nowhere near marriage, heck i haven't even found my Mr Right. *buries face in a pillow and sobs*
anyways, i've been reading on a material, its "Aku Terima Nikahnya" which means "I Accept the Marriage/Nikaah" written by the famous blogger, Ustaz Hasrizal. 
before you go any further with your thoughts, the reason i'm reading it in the first place is because my sister told me his writing is very nice. 
in this book, the Ustaaz mentioned a lot of things, besides marriage. One of them is children. In the book, the Ustaaz explained on how he raises his kids, and from his writing, i can see his kids are brilliant. i've been watching some people with kids raise their child, and i can't help but to think on how will i raise my kids when the time comes. 
one of my seniors raised her daughter in such way that she cries when Daddy beats her hand if the kid does anything wrong. and the kid would cry, and not repeat herself in the future. 
it was a different story with a boy who just laughed, when his mother beats his hand and told him his actions was wrong. instead of apologizing, the boy just ran away, laughing. 
WHOA! watching things like this make me wonder if my kids would respect me as a mother and really take my words at heart. 
i know that we can't raise our kids like our parents' raise us because it's a different era. the way i was brought up, our favourite things get confiscated by Mak if we do something wrong. and the ONLY way to earn back the item is to behave for a whole week or a month and get good results in the exams. if not, the favourite item will remain in her hands forever! *Mak's evil laugh* 
I know i can totally apply Mak's ways, but not so early as 2 years. kids don't know anything at that time. 

which made me turn to what Western's do to their kids. TIME OUT! i learnt this by watching endless episodes of Take Home Nanny on Astro once upon a time. well, that nanny always punish kids who do something wrong by asking the kid to sit on a chair, far away from everybody else for about 10 minutes. She'll ask the kid to think about their actions. she'll come back and check on them after time-out, and see if the kid has learnt his lesson. if the kid finally got back to his senses, the nanny would explain that his actions was wrong and ask him to apologize. then, the kid has to promise not to repeat his actions, or he'll have to go through Time-out again.
what if the kid runs off?

Emma Jenner, the nanny

the nanny would catch the kid and make him sit on the chair again. no ropes to keep him on the chair, just hold him on the chair until he calms down.
smart!
i told my mum a couple of times about this and she said, maybe i should give it a shot. after all, Western's kids' turn out to be more matured and intelligent at such young age. 
okay, it's past midnight, and i have lecture first thing in the morning.
Happy trying!
~there's nothing wrong in trying something from the Western countries, as long as it's something good and beneficial. Peace!

P/S: one of the reasons i'm so motivated is because we share the same name. if she can do it, so can i!

karat

entry kali nie akan ditulis dalam bahasa Melayu. mungkin sebab 'straight from the heart' la kot. 

ema tengah baca Quran tadi, terdetik untuk mengaji lepas solat. masa tengah mengaji tu, perasan yang ema banyak baca salah. kalau ikut hati, memang nak stop kat satu page and resume nanti2. tapi terpikir.

"kalau aku berhenti kat sini, makin erkarat la mengaji aku"

"aku guarantee ka sat lagi aku baca Quran?" 

persoalan2 ni membuatkan ema continue baca Quran. satu lagi page. bacaan semakin okay, walaupun semput dan bacaan jadi slow sebab tengah fikir dalam otak macam mana nak sebut kalimah2 Allah.

Moral of the story:

kalau sedar diri tu berkarat, dalam apa2 urusan sekalipun, itu tandanya kita kena rajin polish, kasi hilang karat. 

nervous

i'm so excited that i'm afraid something will happen in the future. something bad.
Nau'zubillah...
please pray for everything to go easy and that nothing come up till the end of time. aminn...

listen...for once

How come i will have to listen to you every time and i am expected to give some response right after, but when it comes to me wanting you to listen, you're never there?

you're always looking at something or someone, or fidgeting like you want me to stop quickly, or you pretend you're listening when you're not?

do you know how annoyed that make me feel?

it feels like i gave up on you and i don't want to share anything with you anymore.

but every time i do that, you'd feel left out, and i am sure to get an apology from you. 

and trust me, you've made me feel bad.

sometimes i wonder if you're really my friend. because friends listen to each other. 

but maybe it's all my fault.

maybe i should not tell you anything about me or my family. for all you'd do is ignore and push me away.

don't wanna listen? FINE!

dreams and ema

Assalamualaikum, readers.
first of all Happy National Day Malaysia!! it's the 56th birthday for Malaysia.
next up, I apologize for not updating on my blog. i seem to have run out of ideas. or perhaps, i don't feel like whining and complaining about life. some things that annoy me happens almost every day that i somehow was able to cope with whatever.
Anyhow...
back to main story laa...
these past few weeks, i have been dreaming about things that i can't explain. actually i can explain, because the dreams were rather straight-forward. but i only get part and pieces of them that the main question, who is the dream directed to remains a mystery.
i talked to my mum about this, but she was too afraid to reply anything. so, she referred my dream to my dad. well, he's not really an expert, but sometimes the both of us get a vision of some events that becomes true in the future.
wait up a minute, what was the dream??
*inhales deeply* 
i dreamt of me being somewhere close to a bride *i assume* she had her hands spread out with mehendi. the mehendi was bright and red, it looked beautiful. and we were discussing whether to put some mehendi on both sides of the hand. i was definitely excited because even in my sleep, i heard myself laughing. 
the moment i woke up, the question, 'who's the bride?' remained a mystery, was it me, my sister? or was it someone else?
well, in my family, the only single girls waiting in line to get married is my cousin sister who's somewhere between 27-29, my sister who's 26 and me, 21. 
my dad remained cool about this and just guessed between the three of us, the bride in my dream is either my cousin-sister or my sister.
yesterday, i got a news from my sister, who said that my cousin-sister is going to get married. Alhamdulillah...may Allah ease everything...
the second one is i dreamt of my sister's lecturer approved her thesis. she's been struggling for two years now to complete her thesis. and every time she sends them in, the thesis were returned back to her.
in my dream, i checked her e-mail and her lecturer sent her an e-mail approving her thesis. 
what happened in real life is that her lecturer told her in her face that her thesis was okay, she just have some minor spelling errors here and there. once she corrected them, the thesis is good to go. Alhamdulillah....
but i know that my dreams are coincidental in nature. i'm not God to say for sure that these things will happen in the future. 
i dreamt of my dead grandfather entering his own house after almost 10 years of his passing, and i hugged him tightly, sobbing on his shoulders for i missed him so much. he hugged me back and told me how much i've grown. 
but will this happen in the future, nope. it's almost impossible. *there's a lump in my throat*
i also dreamt of me pulling out a cow *or was it a horse? 'm not sure* from the drain in front of my grandma's house, and i was crying so hard, watching the cow struggling to get out. i managed to get him out of the drain and i hugged him, asking him if he was okay. he just stared into my eyes blankly. i don't remember what happened after that. what is the meaning of this dream? i have no idea. will i really pull out a cow all by myself in the future? or will i have a pet cow? no idea.
the thing is, only He knows what's the meaning of all the dreams, and He for sure knows if any of them will happen in the future for sure. as for me, i shall keep on dreaming...

non-Muslims are better

Assalamualaikum, readers. 
i know it's been a while since i blogged. it's been almost two weeks. whoa! sorry. i was caught up with my exams, Eid and my cousin sister's wedding, and exams again! 
anyways, since yesterday was the day we finished our exams, we decided to watch a movie. a movie that needed very little concentration, a comedy movie. i chose Singh is King, a Hindi movie. it was a funny movie indeed.
have you watched any Hindi movies before? do you realize there'll be like 10-15 second clip of their God and some Holy verses that are read during that clip? only after that clip will the movie introduces the producer and the director and thus, the movie begins. for a person who have been watching Hindi movies since forever, i did realize. and my friend who is still new with Hindi movies, she was surprised with the clip. and i actually told her this is kindda normal. it's a symbol of them seeking God's blessing for the movie. and somehow, we ended up with comparing Hindi movies with Malay movies. 

"kalau cerita Melayu, ayat-ayat Quran akan ada bila cerita hantu, benda-benda khurafat ja. kalau bukan cerita macam tu, memang x da la"

translation: in Malay movies, only horror genre involving elements that are against the religion involves some verses from the Holy Quran. otherwise, there's none.

so, yeah, in this particular aspect, somehow i think the non-Muslims are more religious than us, Muslims. we pray five times every day, while the non-Muslims pray at least once a day, or once a week. but we don't apply anything related to God when we talk about entertainment. Malay movies nowadays are more vulgar than ever. the choice of words used, fashion sense, concept of God, everything is so out of place. 
i don't mind one playing a role of a wife in a movie, you don't have to play the role to the point of a wife in a real life. because in the end, the person who plays the role of your husband in the movie ain't your husband at all. so, what does that mean? 
it's HARAAM!
i can go on forever about this. i'm not condemning the industry. i support the industry. but to gain my full respect to the industry is kindda hard. there's always some parts in the movie that goes wrong, even if it's a religious-based movie. i wonder if they ever get some opinions from the imaams, who have better knowledge in this matter.
alright, i wanna take a nap. nite2

movie review: Bohsia 2: Jalan Kembali

Assalamualaikum, readers. 

Rempit

today, i would like to share about another movie i watched last night, Bohsia 2: Jalan Kembali. Bohsia means girls who hangs out with boys until late at night, and those who are involved in multiple sexual partners activity. most of the time, the word 'bohsia' is used when it comes to rempit, an unhealthy, illegal motorcycle riding activity which takes place late at night in the streets of town. rempit used to be so common about 5-7 years back, now rempit has reduced in number, we don;t hear much about underage students rempit in the middle of the night anymore. 

so, this movie is actually a sequel from the previous movie, Bohsia: Jangan Pilih Jalan Hitam, which i didn't watch. my friends only have the second part to this sequel, so i will explain about the second part of the movie. first of all, the line-up cast for this movie is superb. we have all the gangsters in here, the best actress who can portray the life as a bohsia and everything in between.

what i learn from this movie is that it's never easy to turn into a new leaf. your past will always haunt you, and even if you finally forgive yourself for your past, people around you will keep mentioning about your past, bringing it up and make you fall till you feel like there's no hope for you. but that's not the reason why you shouldn't change. in this movie, the character, Amy checked herself into an institute which helps females to gain back their confidence and try to work with their soul, bringing them closer to the religion, so that they will become better place in the future. Amy forgave herself after whatever that has happened in Bohsia 1, but some other colleagues of hers found out about her past and kept tormenting her. whenever she feels like she can repent for her sins, these people would come and tear her insides. they used harsh words on her parents. somehow, she was bullied so badly that she checked herself out of the institution. she told her roomate that she really want to change, but if the environment isn't helping her to become better, there's no use in spending time there.

Tasha played by Nabila Huda

next is the character Tasha. Tasha is a rough, tough girl. she defends herself even when she's up against a man. what i learnt from Tasha is that sometimes, they don't make the choice to become a bohsia. they don;t want to be so cheap, but because of several reasons, they just have to. that's the only way to live. and Tasha was so mad when another girl, played by Hetty Sarlene, wanted to be a bohsia. from here you'd know that even she herself hates the fact that so many girls out there were stupid enough to think that bohsia is actually a cool thing to do. the other thing that caught my attention is when Tasha actually told her ex-boyfriend that now that she's already a bad person, she might as well continue life as a bad person. people will always know her as a bad person, what's the point in changing? 

if you watch this movie, somewhere along the line, you'd see that all the main characters somehow wants to change for the better, they want to pray and repent for their sins, but they have this big ego in their heads. they believe that once you repent, you will have to stop wearing T-shirts and ride the motorcycle. they always believe that a person who has repented must wear a kopiah, to cover their heads for men and always hold on to a string of beads called tasbih. but that's not the case. you can repent and yet maintain wearing T-shirts and jeans, as long as you cover your aurah. 

this movie is worth watching, but again, please don't watch with kids anywhere around you. the words used in this movie is super harsh and shouldn't be heard by kids, even teenagers. if you want to watch with your sons and daughters, make sure they are at least above 19. at least they can think.

thanks for reading.

*somehow i think i should start writing reviews for movies*

movie review: untuk 3 hari

Assalamualaikum, readers.
today, i'll be a movie critic for a Malaysian movie, 'Untuk 3 Hari' which simply means For 3 Days. the plot is about two lovers who married some other people, with a plan. they plan to get married with the other half for 3 days only, and on the third day, they'll ask for talak or divorce. and when everything is settled, these two lovers will get married to one another and live happily ever after. well, that's just the plan. 
the cats line-up is exciting. the two lovers, played by Vanida Imran and Rashidi Ishak are actually husband and wife in real life. but in this movie, they will get married to Afdlin Shauki and Ayu Raudhah respectively. 
what caught my attention while watching the movie is the fact that the young generation have no idea what marriage is. all they know is to attend the marriage classes and get married with the one they love. 
in this movie, the character played by Rashidi was the one who came out with the plan. he told his girlfriend (Vanida) to use sleeping pills and pepper spray to prevent her future husband from touching her. this is one of the funny parts in the movie. well, i don't want to exaggerate more on this, but i can assure you you'd love this movie. so, go watch it if you haven't. but please, don't watch this movie with kids, they would ask a lot and everything you explain would end up wrong and adult-ish. please don't.
one message i got from this movie just made what i believed all along stronger. you can love a stranger called husband after marriage. 
okay, i hear some gasps and growling back there. let me explain.
say A is a girl and B is a guy. B has a girlfriend but he is forced to marry A. B refuses to have any physical contact with A, because he claims he doesn't love A. 
living in the same house, in the same room, of course B sees A drying her hair after she bathes. B definitely smells the sweet scent of A, right? definitely, B will start to fall for A. that's the reason why Islam doesn't allow women to put on really nice perfume, coz they can attract guys. okay, say B has a strong love towards his girlfriend, and he tries his very best to look away and not noticing. A cooks for B and cleans the house. A even irons clothes for B. won't B fall for A? B has never received this much attention and help even from his girlfriend. sooner or later, B WILL DEFINITELY fall for A.
the last thing i could think of is a physical contact between A and B. say B falls sick, and has a bad headache. of course, A as a loving wife, would apply some ointment on her husband's forehead. B would somehow melt at the touch of A. even if A has rough hands, the contact between a lady and a man would melt him. he would definitely fall for A.
therefore, there's no such thing as i can't love you after marriage because i don't know you. marriage itself is a process of getting to know one another. you share the same house, the same room, the same bathroom, the same car, one bank account. you fight, yeah, most definitely, but also, you find a way out of it. that's what marriage is all about.
at most, a guy and a girl would fall for their respective halves in one month. if they don't fall completely for their husband or wife, they've at least developed the love for them.
in the case of the movie, they fell in love at the 3rd day. 
nothing is impossible. if you are in this situation, pray a lot and seek help and guidance from Him. it's not easy, but you can work it out. all you need is patience and honesty.

flattered much?

Assalamualaikum readers. 
to those who are anxious about what happened today in class, don't worry, nothing happened. the student who did not pray last year went back to the hostel, so i assume the student did pray. i'm not an idiot to ask the student whether he/she did perform prayers.
but something else happened yesterday. ELECTION TIME!

"any votes for ema?"

praise to Allah, i am no longer the leader of my group. it may sound simple, just taking care of 13 students, but it's harder than it seems. 
~ you are responsible for all the 13 students to be present at all learning sessions, if any of them are missing in action, you'll be the first to blame. 
~ you need to call the doctors and make sure they attend the classes, for if you fail, you'd be held responsible for your carelessness and puff goes one learning session. 
~ you must contact the doctor in-charge for case presentation, for the doctor only knows you and not the rest of the group. if you fail to let them know the case for the week, you're dead meat! 
~ oh, last but not least, the attendance. students' attendance carries 5% for the final exams. so if you fail to collect all the students' attendance, you are PARTLY responsible if the students fail their exams because of poor attendance. yeah, it seems stupid, but a lot of students fail due to poor attendance. attendance has nothing to do with us, it depends on the students themselves, but somehow, you will feel the guilt for not performing your very best as a group leader.
so, yeah. i can live stress-free for a whole year, not bothering about attendance and my group mates, and of course my phone credits. ~weee
then, i realize, it's not as easy as it is. people have been depending on me for the past one year for attendance and they ask me if there's anything wrong with the doctors and attendance. well, yesterday, even after letting go of my job, there are still students who pass the attendance sheet to me, as if i'm the one responsible for it. hmm, i guess i have to stay cool and not fret about it. 
just when i thought things are over, my whole class mentioned my name as the vice batch leader for next year. oh, God, will things ever get better?
i screamed and shout and let it all out. eh? sounds like Will.I.Am and Britney?
well, i let the whole class know how i don't want any post for next year, but of course, my name was mentioned and a lot of hands were raised. praise to Allah again, i lost by a few hands to my group mate. she was shocked she was even elected, but she'll do just fine. 
however, my name was elected a few times for a number of other posts, which i clearly kept screaming from the front of the lecture hall, 'Aku tak mau!!' meaning i don't want!
luckily, they heard me loud and clear because at the end of the day, i'm just an ordinary student, without any posts and titles! *phew*
i don't think i'm popular as such that my name was elected a number of times, i just think people have become too dependent on me, as i am the nice one, hunting people down for their signature on the piece of blue sheets which are called the attendance. because of that, they love me. they know they could trust me, in such way that i am too tired to care if their friends sign the empty space next to their name for them. 

flattered much? Nah!

i shall enjoy my time sitting in the lecture hall, not bothering to chase the doctors for their signature as well. *evil laugh* 
however, i know deep down inside, i will still chase after the doctor for their signature in the lecture hall. why bother ema? coz i'm afraid, if i don't do this, non of the attendance are accepted and i won't even get the 5% carry marks for my final exam. 
i don't need people to flatter me with compliments, i just wish people would stop asking me and making me responsible for things which are not my concern now. let's keep on wishing!

*whispers* would you do the honour?

Assalamualaikum, readers.
today's entry is rather simple, but the title is so catchy, i'm lovin' it! *please don't hate me*
tomorrow marks the day we Dental students will be hanging out with each other for two weeks. it's going to be tough, so, please pray for all of us.
something happened this time around last year. so, this whole morning, i've been thinking and wandering if the same thing would happen again this year. so what happened last year?
cut story short, there was this one student who was super tired and fell asleep on the table right after lecture. by the time we came back from prayers, the student was still there, sleeping. my friends and i were guessing the student have to performed prayers. and they pushed me to ask the student. i, for once, was super shocked! 

"err, why me? why so random?"

"coz you are a student from an Islamic school, you have the right to advice"

to be honest, when it comes to things related to religion, everybody gets sensitive. 
since we don't know if the student here is a male or a female, i'll provide you the scenario for both.
imagine if i walked up to a female student and told her to perform prayers, she would definitely burst into tears and start yelling at me. it would be the same in the case of a guy, minus the tears.
ema, what are you saying? just forget about the fact that the student have not performed prayers? how could you ema?
okay, chill people. last year, what i did was i left the student, in hopes that a closer friend to the student would drag the student for prayers. i have no idea what happened. but this time around, i have made up my mind. like it or not, the student will have to perform prayers, only if the student dozes off at prayers' time. 
i watched a video by MatLuthfi and in the video, he opened up my eyes about talking your friends into doing good deeds, in a more casual way. don't preach them, talk to them. provide them solutions. give them time. be patient.
i have no idea how am i going to walk up to the student and ask the student to follow me for prayers, well, maybe i'm thinking too much. but, i seek Allah's help to give me courage if any of this was to happen tomorrow. 
will update soon. thanks for reading.

ema answers question part 2

Assalamualaikum, readers.
Salam Ramadhan Kareem! *i know i forgot to wish to you guys, sorry!*

this time around, the situation was in a surau (it's a building where one prays, a smaller version of a mosque)
a girlfriend of mine asked a senior, who was also in the surau, preparing to pray whether the senior has got herself engaged. i have no idea what the senior replied, but my friend came to sit with another friend and me and immediately asked of our opinions.

"is it inappropriate to ask someone if she's engaged?"

i laughed. but of course, upon watching her face waiting for an explaination, i told her, the act is not wrong, but according to Islam, engagements is not to be told to everybody, better kept a secret. but in the case of wedding, the more people you invite, the better. because wedding is something confirm, where two individuals are joined together with a vow. i was happy with the reply i gave her until i realized i was wrong.

i came back and all i kept thinking is her question and my reply. 
i put myself in the situation. say i'm engaged, and if i don;t want to tell people about it and i don't want anybody to know about it until it's confirmed for sure that my fiance and me will get married, what would i do?

i have three seniors who already got married now. i watched them both and was surprised when they brought up the news that they'd get married. the first thing that came to my mind, "when did you get engaged?" *smile*

they both were engaged, but never once they put on their engagement rings on their fingers. they both were getting married, but they were as silent as ever.
it doesn't matter if they knew their husbands before this or not, the fact is that they succeeded in keeping the engagement a secret and kept nobody from questioning.

if you are somewhat like me, the type who is easily irritable, don't like when people ask you "do you have a boyfriend?" or "when are you getting married?", please, the only way is to hide your ring from the public eye. 
it solves a lot of things. it keeps you from the 'evil eye' of the public and those who hate you. you also get some reward for keeping it a secret, according to the teachings of Islam.

hope this helps! 

Ashraf Muslim kahwin lagi?

Assalamualaikum, readers.
*entry kali nie dinukilkan dalam bahasa Melayu ya?*

kecoh satu Facebook apabila dapat tahu Ashraf Msulim kahwin dengan Wan Sakinah kat Thailand. Selama nie, dia berdiam diri, tak nak bagitau apa-apa kat wartawan bila ditemuduga, tup tup, dah kahwin. Aikkk, apa dah jadi?
persoalannya, adilkah dia? salahkah dia berpoligami?

cerita poligami nie ema pernah cerita dalam entry sebelum ni, kalau nak baca klik sini. tapi ingat ya, entry yang ema tulis tu berdasarkan apa yang ema rasa betul. kalau salah, minta maaflahh...
pening jugak nak fikir salahkah dia nak kahwin lain. sebenarnya, tak salah pun Ashraf nak kahwin lain. sunnah. tapi ema tak berkenan dengan cara yang Ashraf gunakan untuk berpoligami. tapi, siapakah kita untuk cakap apa-apa. kita mana tahu apa yang jadi dalam rumahtangga diorang sebelum nie. 
ramai yang marah Ashraf, ramai jugak yang marah Wan Sakinah. yang pasti, semua orang kesian kat Dr Dayana. 
golongan yang marah Ashraf cakap dia gatal nak kahwin lain, kesian kat Dayana. tapi kita tak boleh cakap macam tu sebab kita dah tolak hukum Allah untuk berpoligami. berdosa. fikir baik-baik sebelum cakap ya, takut kalau tersalah cakap berdosa pulak...
yang marah Wan Sakinah cakap dia gatal nak dekat-dekat dengan Ashraf Muslim walaupun dah tau Ashraf suami orang. ini pun tak boleh kata jugak. sebabnya dia krew produksi. selalu ada kat set penggambaran, macam mana kalau dia tak buat apa-apa pun, diorang sembang-sembang and connect? mungkin diorang banyak persamaan dari segi personaliti. kita tak tahu. tapi ramai yang cakap dia tak perlu sembunyi kat Tahiland semua, selagi kita tak tahu cerita sebenar, kita fikir yang baik-baik sahaja laa...
yang kesian kat Dayana pula cakap hanya kerana diorang tak dapat anak lagi, Ashraf nak kahwin lain. kesian diaa....Dayana kena tipu, sebab Ashraf tak bagitau pun dia nak pergi mana. kesiannnn....

semua orang ada pendapat masing-masing, tapi siapalah kita untuk mengulas sedangkan kita tak tau apa pun pasal benda nie. rumah tangga orang adalah rahsia suami isteri. ^_~

ema tau ema masih tak ada apa-apa kesimpulan di sini, sebab ema tak nak judgmental.

surprise surprise

Assalamualaikum, readers.
it's 7.55 am here in Malaysia, and it's 2nd Ramadhan. i'm more than happy this morning, that i made a decision to write a bit.
remember i mentioned that my roomates were non-Muslims a few times in my entries? well, one of them went back a while ago. surprisingly, she came up to me and mentioned she's going back and she wished me luck for my upcoming exams, and.....she hugged me! i was so surprised i didn't know what to do. i hugged her back of course but in an awkward manner. 

i mean, after all that we been through, backbiting each other on our backs, she hugged me? wow. however, i'm still glad she hugged me, it means she is really happy of going back home and she doesn't want us living in the same room to end with negativity. 
i admit, this past few weeks, during their final exams, we got closer. we respected each other during prayers, spoke on the phone outside the room, i stopped singing loudly, and i bought food for them when i went out. i never regret having them as my roomates, i learnt a lot from them, and i hope they do to. 
well, that's about it. 

Happy Ramadhan, everybody!

expectations

Assalamualaikum, readers.
tonight, my entry this time is about Ramadhan, and this entry is inspired by my two non-Muslim roomates. they were talking and asking each other when will a Muslim start fasting, and they were guessing. it was funny because they had no calendar to refer to and they depend on Facebook statuses for confirmation. they didn't have the courage to ask me and i don't blame them. they are afraid of what i might think.
i didn't tell any of my friends about this because i know the response i'd get from them. "oh, my God, seriously, they don't know? how come?"
"every year we Muslims fast, they should know la..."
"your roomates are funny! *chuckles*"
to save my anger for stupid stuff, i rather not tell them. 
this is the problem with Muslims in Malaysia. *i'm not referring to all, just the ones who belong to this category* they EXPECT the others to know EVERYTHING about Islam just because Malaysia is ruled by a Muslim and majority of Malaysians are Malays. if you still think you're right, allow me to ask you something. 
since Chinese is the second race that is populated by Malaysians, why do Chinese celebrate Wesak? what do they do on Wesak Day? 
what about Indians? why do they celebrate Thaipusam every year? why do they walk on the streets, crashing coconut along the streets?
if you can't answer this, please kill yourself.
how long have you lived in Malaysia? how long have Malaysians celebrated these? to tell you the truth, this is just two of the many occasions Malaysians celebrate in a whole year. 
it's the same situation with what others know about Muslims. they know a little bit of everything we do. so please don't blame them for not knowing the purpose of us Muslims praying 5 times a day, why do we pay the zakat, why we recite the Quran, why we fast...we need to explain so that they understand. same goes to them. if you don't ask them, they'd never tell, and you'd never know.
i really hope this simple entry goes deep into your brain and switch on the light bulb that goes, "TING" and you get it. like really get it.
thank you for reading.