ema answers question part 2

Assalamualaikum, readers.
Salam Ramadhan Kareem! *i know i forgot to wish to you guys, sorry!*

this time around, the situation was in a surau (it's a building where one prays, a smaller version of a mosque)
a girlfriend of mine asked a senior, who was also in the surau, preparing to pray whether the senior has got herself engaged. i have no idea what the senior replied, but my friend came to sit with another friend and me and immediately asked of our opinions.

"is it inappropriate to ask someone if she's engaged?"

i laughed. but of course, upon watching her face waiting for an explaination, i told her, the act is not wrong, but according to Islam, engagements is not to be told to everybody, better kept a secret. but in the case of wedding, the more people you invite, the better. because wedding is something confirm, where two individuals are joined together with a vow. i was happy with the reply i gave her until i realized i was wrong.

i came back and all i kept thinking is her question and my reply. 
i put myself in the situation. say i'm engaged, and if i don;t want to tell people about it and i don't want anybody to know about it until it's confirmed for sure that my fiance and me will get married, what would i do?

i have three seniors who already got married now. i watched them both and was surprised when they brought up the news that they'd get married. the first thing that came to my mind, "when did you get engaged?" *smile*

they both were engaged, but never once they put on their engagement rings on their fingers. they both were getting married, but they were as silent as ever.
it doesn't matter if they knew their husbands before this or not, the fact is that they succeeded in keeping the engagement a secret and kept nobody from questioning.

if you are somewhat like me, the type who is easily irritable, don't like when people ask you "do you have a boyfriend?" or "when are you getting married?", please, the only way is to hide your ring from the public eye. 
it solves a lot of things. it keeps you from the 'evil eye' of the public and those who hate you. you also get some reward for keeping it a secret, according to the teachings of Islam.

hope this helps!