Just go with it!

Assalamualaikum readers.

Today i would like to talk on a rather sensitive topic. Marriage. Again.

I have been on this topic a lot lately.

1. My friend is getting married soon
2. Another friend was in the getting-to-know-each-other phase with a potential candidate
3. Just watched a Hindi movie where parents match make their children for future of their business
4. I was just wondering about my life as a wife. What??

Anyways...

I've been avoiding this topic because i was always not sure if i could ever get through with it.

Thinking about it makes me nervous. Like, will we live together forever...happily?

Will we get through everything together?

Will i ever know if he is the one?

So much uncertainty.

And then...
I thought.

Well, when i got myself a cat, i also had all tge negarive thoughts.

-will the cat be happy?
-will the space in my room sufficient for it?
-have i got everything for a cat?
-am i ready to be a cat owner?

And once the cat was in the house, i had so many MORE questions.

- Is it okay if he doesnt drink water?
- Does kitten sleep all the time?
- Why is it having diarrhea?

And i seek help from the internet and people...

...and it helped me through accustomed to being a cat owner.

I am still learning about my cat on a daily basis. He is showing more and more of his personality and it surprises me even to this day.

What im trying to say is...

You will never know what it feels like (eg: registering to a new school, buying a new car, getting married, having a child, taking care of a sick person, babysitting your niece, yadda yaddaa...), until you just take a plunge into it with an open mind.

No matter how much you prepare yourself for the situation, you'll end up knowing VERY LITTLE about it.

You will learn more and more about the subject as time passes.

And trust me, waiting to be PREPARED will almost never come.
Just like sitting for an exam. You were given 3 weeks to prepare for the exam. But the night before the exam, you'll still be shitting in your pants, going through all the notes, screaming because you are thinking about the questions that might come out for the exams, tossing and turning on the bed singing yourself to sleep...
And only after you've sat for the exam, you find out what things that you still havent understood, havent completely mastered.

But thats what exams are for right?

Same goes with life.

Its an ongoing process of learning.

Same goes with marriage. Living with another person is difficult,yes no doubt about it.
You will have to learn on how to share, how to communicate, how to love. But again...its a learning process.

Our parents didnt get to know each other over 3 months of marriage nd lived happily. It took them years and years of learningbfor them to be where they are now. And most of them would say, she/he was so mych different after marriage, it feltnlike i married a whole different person.

My advice, no matter what situation you are in, close your eyes, take a breather, and take the plunge.

If you are forever afraid of the UNKNOWN, you'll NEVER live your life.

P/S: hit the gym for the first time last night. Had great fun, laughed, made a fool of myself. But hey, i ENJOYED it.