let's get married!

Assalamualaikum, peeps.
i know i haven't been logging for a while now. i was so caught up with student life and the holidays, and the general election. hahaa..i was too lazy to write about anything, that's why i didn't blog. *please don't kill me. i love you!*
so, here we are again, talking about marriage. i'm really sorry but i just have to talk about this again and again, because i'm so shocked at what people (younger people) really thinks about marriage.

exactly my question

i went to lots of talks and the ustaz and ustazah would recommend those who are in a relationship to proceed to marriage, because it's the best thing to do. yes, i agree with that. but one thing i don't agree is 'rushing' into it. i have a friend who have been in a relationship for 2-3 years now. it's a long distance relationship. and they  always talk about marriage. they even made a plan what happens after they get married. best part is the guy told her dad about their relationship and that he wanted to marry her...through FB. *in my case, please, ask me for my dad's number, call him, set a date and meet him face-to-face, and tell him you wanna marry me. ehem ehem, promote diri betul*
the funny thing is that she wanted a super small wedding, whereby she said it will only cost her not more than RM3000 for a whole wedding. no pelamin (it's actually a cushion-like chair, decorated beautifully for both the groom and bride to sit on, while people come over to snap pictures), wedding reception will be held outside the house, no need for a wedding gown (she'll just wear her old baju kurung) and i don't know what else. 
she even had a plan, whereby she would still live with her parents as he sends her RM100-150 monthly as 'nafkah' (it's kindda like some money for the wife to spend which must be given by the husband even though the wife is also working). of course she also has her scholarship, but as far as i elieve is right, once we are married, we shouldn't bother our parents anymore. what's the point of marriage for us (woman) if we still go bother our parents for anything at all, when our husband has given us money for us? this is just my philosophy,whereby i will try to not bother my parents anymore once i'm married. of course parents don't mind spending on their child financially, i just think it's inappropriate. 'nafkah' would never be a MUST in Islam if the woman still depend on her parents financially.  

let's hold hands!

the best part is that she mentioned that she could spend time with him, holding hands and teasing in other in public, without getting sins, as they are married. so the whole point of marrying one another is so that you could hold hands in public? haiyoo!! i am speechless!
truth is, i am not against marriage at early age, of marriage while studying, it's okay with me. but please make sure the reason you marry one another is clear, not for silly reasons like holding hands in public. i have a couple of seniors who got married, one of them married because she needed support emotionally, as she is a revert, and her dad was against it, and she had never went back since then. she needed emotional support and insyaAllah, i hope she got that already since she's married now, and she goes back to her husband's place every now and then. this, i can accept!
in my case, i'm not so sure i'm fit to go into marriage now. i was ironing my clothes and after ironing 4 items, i was tired and already started grumbling. then, it came to my mind, what if i were to iron my husband's clothes as well? and what if he wears the very very formal attire to work, with vest and a suit? meaning, i have to iron about 5 items just for him, plus mine, altogether there's 9! doing this every night? i'll go nuts! haha...

i know there's always compromise in marriage, just that i don't think i can handle so much at the state i am now, a student. but i can never do anything aout anything because everything is God's plan. if it's written up there in Luh Mahfuz that i will marry while i'm still studying, then it will happen. if it's written there that i will get married to a guy who wear 6 items to work and who is fussy, then he is my husband. hahaa...i know i'm already crapping. 

love seeing old couples, everything about them is cute