before you say anything at all...

Assalamualaikum and good afternoon dear readers. i'm currently reading my notes on Non-Steroidal Anti Inflammatory Drugs, but suddenly i got the idea to write. so, why wait? *giggles* 
yesterday, while browsing through my Facebook news feed, i came across one status by someone, i don't remember who. the status goes something like this. 
A boy confessed he loves this girl and wants to marry her. so, he asked her what she wants as her 'mas kahwin'. 
*i remember explaining to you guys about what mas kahwin is. in short, it's some sort of a present to the bride. it could be in the form of cash or things. it depends on the verdict of both sides of the family* in this case, the girl told the guy she only wants the Holy Quran as her mas kahwin. and so the guy went to meet her parents and when her parents asked him what he wants to provide for their daughter, he said the Holy Quran. and the father laughed. *that's a little mean, i know* the father demanded RM15000 as the mas kahwin. and the father even said, no money, no marriage.
the boy got mad and lost his temper, and blurted, 'the way you're marrying your daughter to me is like selling her for RM15000. if you want to sell your daughter, go to Wakaf Che Yeh, probably someone could provide you that amount of money and marry her!' *this is a little overboard to me* the father of the girl got mad, and started to wrestle the boy. 
and out of nowhere, the girl shouted, 'STOP!! all i want is a happy marriage. please, i don't want anything from him. all i want is his love. please, let me marry this guy' 
all of a sudden, her parents realized what they've done wrong, and the two got married that day.

parents are everything

i get the message the story wants to send. somehow i still think it's a bit wrong. by right, the girl shouldn't give her answer to marry the guy right away. she should at least let her parents know that the boy asked to marry her. and then, maybe she should tell her parents that all she wanted is a Holy Quran for mas kahwin. and she should explain to her parents nicely about what she thinks. then, after her parents agree, she should ask the boy to come over. 
and the boy shouldn't be screaming at the girl's father no matter what. he should be calmer and sort this out intelligently. what i prefer is the boy to explain to the girl's father that he's still studying and what plans he has for them in the future. that'll show a little bit of maturity, don't you think? plus, he should respect the elderly, isn't that what Islam taught us? this is the thing about young generations, they are so into the sunnah that they tend to overlook the wajib. marriage is sunnah, respecting parents is wajib, meaning it's a must and you're sinned if you disrespect them.
i hope i make sense.