lose yourself or be responsible

Assalamualaikum readers...

Alhamdulillah, i have passed my final exams and currently at home gaining weight + helping my mum and dad with house chores...occasionally + catching up on all the dramas on TV.

I have been watching multiple shows on TV and a bulb just went on in my head. i've got an idea for my blog.

there's a channel on ASTRO 732, Crime & investigation, and it shows a lot of crimes happening all around the world, and i umped into a show i dont quite remember, but it tells a story of a child who was online as a teenager and somehow she got kidnapped by an older man.

Also recently i watched an episode of Sister Wives where the first wife was caught talking to a man online and later found out that the man was actually a woman. This caused her marriage to fall apart and the family shattered to pieces. The husband was upset, the other wives were upset, and they don't know where this would end.

I have ran into similar stories while watching Oprah a long time ago, where they were talking about pedophiles and internet. And at the end of the segment, Oprah Winfrey concluded that there are monsters online.

I don't agree 100% on that statement. I'm sorry.

I believe there's the victim also shares a portion of the blame, not the bad guy alone.

and then i watched Law and Order: SVU, where Sergeant Olivia Benson (Mariska Hargitay) mentioned in one of the episodes that the victim is always never to be blamed.
i agree partially on the statement.

eg: a young teenager knowingly went into a "Dark Room" with a guy she has a crush on, despite understanding the meaning of entering the room with the guy (the room is where people have sexual intercourse, and have their names written on the wall)

i mean, if she doesn't like the idea, then she should have rejected the guy when he proposed the idea. She even consented and said Yes when he asked her. Then after she was assaulted, she claimed she was raped.

then, who is to be blamed?

same goes to the Sister Wives and victims of pedophilia mentioned by Oprah.
They knew there are bad people online, the solution is simple, don't get engaged to them. they are STRANGERS. you should never ever believe a word they say. even the pictures they upload may not be theirs.

i just don't like the idea where the victims stay victims. sometimes, they just play the VICTIM CARD.

back to my initial story, someone i knew went out willingly at midnight to meet a friend somewhere, alone.

there's so many red flags! how can you not see them?

- its midnight (can't it wait until tomorrow morning?)
- you're alone (what if something happens to you?)
- the person is of an opposite sex

sometimes i wonder if i'm too evil to judge people too quick or am i just being too careful?

honestly, up to this day, i've never meet anyone alone anywhere.

once, i had to meet a guy friend to pass him my flashdrive, just at sunrise. I dragged my roomate don with me to meet him.
The meetup didn't last more than 1 minute, i swear.

but what's wrong in playing safe?
why not?

anyhow, allegations were made but no one was there to backup the story. (see the importance of tagging along a friend?)

so...the conclusion is, be careful and responsible. or lose yourself.

thanks.

Wallahualam.