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Wednesday 13 November 2013

what about Time-out?

Assalamualaikum readers.
I know its a little too early to talk about kids, since i'm nowhere near marriage, heck i haven't even found my Mr Right. *buries face in a pillow and sobs*
anyways, i've been reading on a material, its "Aku Terima Nikahnya" which means "I Accept the Marriage/Nikaah" written by the famous blogger, Ustaz Hasrizal. 
before you go any further with your thoughts, the reason i'm reading it in the first place is because my sister told me his writing is very nice. 
in this book, the Ustaaz mentioned a lot of things, besides marriage. One of them is children. In the book, the Ustaaz explained on how he raises his kids, and from his writing, i can see his kids are brilliant. i've been watching some people with kids raise their child, and i can't help but to think on how will i raise my kids when the time comes. 
one of my seniors raised her daughter in such way that she cries when Daddy beats her hand if the kid does anything wrong. and the kid would cry, and not repeat herself in the future. 
it was a different story with a boy who just laughed, when his mother beats his hand and told him his actions was wrong. instead of apologizing, the boy just ran away, laughing. 
WHOA! watching things like this make me wonder if my kids would respect me as a mother and really take my words at heart. 
i know that we can't raise our kids like our parents' raise us because it's a different era. the way i was brought up, our favourite things get confiscated by Mak if we do something wrong. and the ONLY way to earn back the item is to behave for a whole week or a month and get good results in the exams. if not, the favourite item will remain in her hands forever! *Mak's evil laugh* 
I know i can totally apply Mak's ways, but not so early as 2 years. kids don't know anything at that time. 
which made me turn to what Western's do to their kids. TIME OUT! i learnt this by watching endless episodes of Take Home Nanny on Astro once upon a time. well, that nanny always punish kids who do something wrong by asking the kid to sit on a chair, far away from everybody else for about 10 minutes. She'll ask the kid to think about their actions. she'll come back and check on them after time-out, and see if the kid has learnt his lesson. if the kid finally got back to his senses, the nanny would explain that his actions was wrong and ask him to apologize. then, the kid has to promise not to repeat his actions, or he'll have to go through Time-out again.
what if the kid runs off?
Emma Jenner, the nanny
the nanny would catch the kid and make him sit on the chair again. no ropes to keep him on the chair, just hold him on the chair until he calms down.
smart!
i told my mum a couple of times about this and she said, maybe i should give it a shot. after all, Western's kids' turn out to be more matured and intelligent at such young age. 
okay, it's past midnight, and i have lecture first thing in the morning.
Happy trying!
~there's nothing wrong in trying something from the Western countries, as long as it's something good and beneficial. Peace!

P/S: one of the reasons i'm so motivated is because we share the same name. if she can do it, so can i!

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